Most people are familiar with the Danish concept of hygge and the image of candles and coziness it conveys. In fact, thanks to its rapid commercialization over the past five years, you’re likely to find the word “hygge” in Sydney, London, or New York. But hygge is more about a social atmosphere where all members participate: fun and conflict-free. It’s within this context that hyggeracisme happens; where one hears the N-word or sees a Nazis gesture in the name of “fun.” Since the state of hygge dictates an stress-free mood, anyone who speaks out is perceived as ruining the hygge. This is the person that is ultimately condemned by the group and vilified for breaking social norms. https://www.scandinaviastandard.com/what-is-hygge-racism-how-did-it-become-so-pervasive-in-danish-culture/
A long time ago in a land faraway I took a summer Russian class between college semesters. One of the sayings that I learned, after I learned a swear or two, translates, “In Russia there is no sex.” The high abortion rates belie this fact.
I learned about Hygge, ironically in the context of white women wanting to claim some form of connection to nature and sacredness that isn’t appropriating from cultures that have experiences slavery, genocide, annihilation and assimilation, while incorporating their gifts without giving proper credit and in the context of exploitation. I also left all my liberal communities that were into Black Lives Matter, both because I saw that movement becoming a politically correct machine for the “beat Trump at all costs” left that no longer had anything to do with actually ending racism or making the lives of those who have suffered from racism really truly better, but just policing the speech of white people leaving actual racism in place. Our community did start talking about racism - but only within a controlled bandwidth that wasn’t going to solve the problem.
In a previous post I wrote about how years ago when I was an evangelical I wrote a piece called Why I Apologized to Planned Parenthood. Since then I have become pro choice, but I also believe in a sane, health society free of rape and addiction, where women know their worth and choose their men accordingly and where we live in communities where one way or another moms and babies are taken care of, including childcare where, if a mother has a calling, passion and purpose outside of motherhood, she can pursue it, that few women would choose abortion.
I think that different babies “ensoul” at different stages of pregnancy or in some cases at birth and that the soul knows what it is getting into. I trust women to make decisions more than rules of society or men, but that doesn’t mean I think the growing human is “just tissue” at six or seven or nine months gestation. Six month old fetuses dream. How is a baby different at 37 weeks before delivery or after? In some cases, yes perhaps the soul only integrates at birth, but scientifically there isn’t much difference.
The other day I shared on
page a little about my experience with my second and third children’s births, which I have also shared. in a very general way here.After commenting on Jennifer’s post, Hubby and I were chatting. When I chose to have HBACs he was in medical training and he fully supported my decision. When he saw my reasoning, it made sense to him and he was all in. As he saw and participated in medicalized birth and saw the attitudes towards women who have “birth plans” during his training he was even more all in. I think he was more all in than I was - my ideal would have been to have available birthing cottage a 45 second walk from an ER. I hope someone starts the birthing cottage movement!
Since I had to choose between a hospital birth in an environment I know I wouldn’t be able to relax enough to have a VBAC while on the “clock” for how long your allowed to labor before they go to C-Section - or plan another C-Section - I felt the least overall risky and right-for-me choice was a home birth.
My research at the time showed a failed attempt at VBAC followed by C-Section was riskier than a Planned C-Section. A Planned C-Section was not what I wanted and came with its own risks - including longer term ones in terms of what the baby doesn’t get when it misses out on the birth canal and the experience of labor and birth.
Yet the same people who would fight to the death for my right to terminate wouldn’t fight that hard - or might fight on the other side - when it comes to my right for where, how and with whom to birth. Women who choose home birth often face guilt trips on the grounds that they are irresponsible to the baby - by the same people who would argue a woman’s right to terminate the life of the same being in question prior to - or in same cases even post- birth.
If the basis for my rights is my womanhood, then I have at least as much as right to decide when how and with whom I will birth, as I do to terminate a pregnancy. I would argue that the right to birth on my own terms - without interference or hardship - and my right not to be raped or sexually violated in any way are actually priori - first rights - ones that come before the right to terminate. Termination is often used to cover up rape and sexual abuse, and it has a long history of being used as a matter of Eugenics. Thus, for termination to be a woman’s right, rather than a punishment on her to pay for the crimes of others, the first rights must be in place as priori.
If my rights are based on my womanhood - and the idea of my womanhood is that I am a full of human being - then if my body rights are based on my full human beingness - then I have a right to decide about everything to do with my body. Plain and simple. Why is it that some people haven’t been “Granted” full human status when society wants to take away some or all of their rights? And how is it that both making it politically incorrect to speak on a topic (as in Hygge and the illusion of there being no racism in Scandinavia) as well as making it politically correct to only say certain things about a topic with policed language (left wing) in the USA and other similar cultural contexts = the same brushing of the core issues under the rug?
And as there is genuine racism toward people of color - and unique elements of both racism and domination that apply to Indigenous people/peoples as discussed by people like
there is also a sense in which non-elite white people are made to pay for that very racism when it comes to policies that in some situations favor those of certain demographics to meet quotas rather than instigate True change to move toward a society that lives on grassroots all way win solutions, respect and mutual appreciation. Often those pumped through Ivy leagues who meet quotas continue to experience racism but are co-opted to serve Supremacy agendas by “representing” those agendas to communities of color. My husband who is part white and part ethnically mixed was told by his primary care physician when he was considering applying to med school, “They aren’t accepting white men unless you know someone.” Unless you know someone.Whether it’s racism or sex or abuse or anything else under the sun, ultimately, by refusing to talk about a subject, you can actually cause its shadow sides to grow. At the same time, when the limits within which it is acceptable to talk about it are controlled, the result is the same with outwardly looking details altered to make it look the opposite.
Look at how much resistance there is to talking about child sex trafficking in my community, in my church - or among my favorite politicians and thought leaders.
Or “My side of the political aisle is supporting free speech” can hide how certain appointees are deeply tied to the surveillance state, and a certain platform that shall not be named actually has agreed to more government censorship requests than that platform before the buyout. And then there are those who fund all the platforms.
And last but not least, there’s Trump’s running mate choice of JD Vance, a former venture capitalist whose firm’s investors included Peter Thiel, Eric Schmidt, and Andreessen himself.
https://www.theverge.com/2024/7/24/24204706/marc-andreessen-ben-horowitz-a16z-trump-donations
Andreeson donated Series A Funding 15.3 Million 2019 A16 65 million Series B funding 2021 to Substack through the A16z fund.
Andreessen's VC fund, Andreessen Horowitz, had agreed to invest $400 million in the Twitter takeover deal
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I chose to talk about Andreeson because of the impact on Substack specifically showing the influence across all platforms. Instead of thinking “our” platform is immune and others are not, we can begin to see that while we each have to make our own decisions how best to navigate, it is the same general group of people investing in all of them.
Likewise, if we can recognize that harmful ideologies exist in places like Scandinavia as much as in the US, we can stop putting them on a pedestal and start looking at what needs deep healing.
If we can look at how sexual abuse occur in all spiritual traditions and also among those who are anti-God we can stop fighting this or that tradition and put our focus on holding our own traditions accountable. Fully.
This video (below) is not my tradition in this life, but I came upon this video while looking up “Mamo Dakinis” and found a wealth of treasure on dakinitranslations.org
We don’t have to focus on all the evil in the world to simply get the idea that it isn’t unique to one group or place.
By walking in integrity and listening for the whispers of spirit for when to act, we will embody a way of being that transmits to others!
Here are some tips
If you are a man:
let your buddies and co-workers know it isn’t okay to use porn that may use children or the vulnerable in the making of the films. Let them know it’s not cool. It is your business. It is vital. The essence of the divine masculine is to stand up for the feminine and the vulnerable. Be courageous.
Be impeccable in your relationships, regardless of how you structure them - be harmless!
Be open to understanding that many issues have many facets. If you care about social justice, go beyond what is politically correct and look at root causes.
If you can’t be monogamous, have the courage to be honest with your partner/partners. If you can be, then don’t make excuses for yourself if that is your agreement. If you don’t want to be and you’re married, don’t pressure your partner into an open relationship- give your partner an out with a really good financial settlement - or the best you can give.
Never take advantage of someone - make sure anyone who chooses to be with you is a fully consenting adult who is in their right mind when they make that choice. Well, as much as any of us is in our right mind.
Talk ahead of time about your role if your partner becomes pregnant - so she can choose not to have sex with you if she doesn’t want to have an abortion in that eventuality and you don’t want to be a dad. Otherwise, agree to co-parent with loving compassion for one another even if it doesn’t work out.
For those who support a woman who becomes pregnant: Trust her inner wisdom and guide her back to her own knowing.
For all human beings - support your fellow human beings in making the choice that are right for them without coercion, and when you have input, support policies that do not exclude from society those who make choices that are different than the ones that are pushed or considered convenient - whether its’ technology or birth.
For women - never shame or. gaslight another woman’s choice - whether it’s abortion or birth. Trust her journey. Encourage her to be honest and tender with herself. Encourage her to forgive herself if she feels she has regrets or feels she has made mistakes.
For you - may you know you are precious, worthy, loved, sacred and beautiful simply because you exist. May you find all you need to heal and empower yourself. May benevolent beings come alongside you to support your healing journey, including your journey of self-forgiveness. May you use all you have been through to shine a light that is loving and that resonates with a healing ray of wisdom and truth.
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